When did Complicated become so Complicated ?!

Today was a throwback Sunday. While enjoying the variety of rice at the canteen, me and my friends found ourselves talking about our first “love”, high school sweethearts and how innocent those times used to be...See, we have this wrong mentality where we come from. If you are to have a crush or be very close to a boy before a certain age, Your picture kind of gets down from the ‘pride’ corner of the pictures in your house and then  brothers/boy cousins happen…poor crush… (Now don’t start getting any wrong ideas, my picture was on the top the whole time :D )

Interesting how we would consider something like that such a big deal back then.  After getting surprised of the mentality which we grew up around, of course we started comparing generations (funny enough, with more or less the same mentality that judged our generation back then). In our defense: things have gotten worrying . This is what my cousin said when asked about what love meant to him:

– “Love is dreaming about somebody and wanting to go to school to see her/them!”  

Sweet right? Now go back to reading it and take in consideration that he was four years old and sipping from his Choc milk box when he said it. He also added that he had two girlfriends, so that whenever one would be missing a day in kindergarten, he wouldn’t feel lonely.

Me, at 5^th grade went home crying to my mom because a boy told me he liked me, while the 5^th graders now look like mid-teenagers and aim for high school boys! My friend felt humiliated that she bloomed early , while little girls’ bikini pictures cover our Facebook and Instagram wall .Guys…I don’t blame you but don’t get yourself in trouble. For the safety of everybody, I think all these YOLO generation, under 16, should wear an ID badge around their neck the whole time.  My other friend was saying how she, in middle school, would write in a foreign language in her diary so that nobody would understand (That would be hilarious to read now! ) while nowadays keeping things private for these little cupcakes is the least of their worries , actually they even promote their most personal things.

 Yes, we were the innocent ones, and yes we thought of things straight forward back then. “A boy meets a girl, and they become sweethearts, spend beautiful times together and fall madly in love and nothing else stands in their way.”  Remember those sweet scenarios? Yeah… they are gone.  Ask us ! That sweet boy you meet, becomes the boy you stalk on social media. The sweetheart phase you go through becomes a ping-pong of stares and casual talks where both know exactly what’s happening. The beautiful times you spend become awkward to the fear of what’s going to happen next. The madly in love part ?! Forget about it, it’s complicated.  There are even worse scenarios to add more to this complicated drama, but I don’t think it’s proper to go there now...

Complicated is a complicated word to use in such complicated situations. But hey, we live in a messed up, complicated world where nothing is predictable, where even the most predictable people have a scary phase of ambiguity, where relationships are labeled under tens of names, where your love happiness means a long journey of disappointments, where expressing feelings towards people you like becomes a huge challenge, where culture and blindness messes up everything and time is never enough. So, get what you can from it. Hell with the fixed scenarios! Write your own novel J