Say Hello to Goodbye. (part 2)

I decided to divide it into parts because there is so much to talk about, and I thought that I shouldn’t leave anything out. Joke on me though, everything that I thought of mentioning through the whole semester suddenly washed off…

The first thing I just could think of (and call me silly if you want) is Skapto’s shower! Oh how are we going to miss it…and if you say you were never impressed by it, you’re a liar and you know it!

Second and even more important: the Free-responsibility days ! Where and when else will you have the chance to lay down, decide to skip classes, order food in and just decide to chill and relax for the day and postpone everything for tomorrow ?! Well, of course if you win the lottery or become extremely reach. However you will have to find ways to protect your wealth and how to spend it, so that will take you quite some time and thinking. While on free-responsibility days  at AUBG day you don’t have to think about anything! It’s all taken care of…or at least you’re just accepting the fact that it is what it is and not much can change, or just trying to boost up your morale by thinking “Meh…there can be worse…”

Now I don’t know about you , but I’ ve had quite a few of these days. They  are  also called “hell-with-it-all” days and happen exactly after you’re having a “im-losing-it”  week, or “why-is everything-happening-to-me” day …or best case scenario “Im-in-a good-mood-for-no-reason” wake up.

Unless you can afford losing your job, you will never have the opportunity to wake up some days and just decide to switch off your alarm and turn on the other side… The grown-up world after university is messed up and won’t quite allow you to do that… So enjoy it as long as you re a valuable asset to the school’s finances. 

Say Hello to Goodbye. (part 1)

Okay ,  okay…  i know that might sound a little too cliché and you re probably creating this very sensitive image of me , but lose it ! It is just something that happens to all of us. To the ones who consider themselves as careless when it comes to getting attached with things and people, of course it happens to the ones who treasure memories( especially the stupid ones who happen to happen only at certain times in life) and it happens to those that have a “I don’t give a fudge” reputation they don’t want to mess up but that deep inside do feel sad about having to leave and move on to the next stage of life.

If you were to ask me a couple of years ago (those close to me can recall my whining…) I couldn’t make it to the other day. I used to wish of having other opportunities and that I could pick up and leave just then and there…but I couldn’t. I was so eager to experience new things that just waking up and just realizing of being here drowned my morale and killed my mood for the day. I would rather spend whole weekends in my room munching away than going out and socializing. Zero incentive…NADA!

But the senior year approached and I was literally willing (finances permitting) to make a firework display countdown just because the end of it was so close! And then the last semester and my best friend happened ... She has a master of creating this emotional vibe around the room that regardless my strong defense walls, did get to me eventually. Now, we re all experiencing “The last…” whatever event in school . Here is how it goes: We start getting ready and we are so much in the mood to get to the school’s party/event, and there she goes: “Boshke…this is our last one…” Now, here is where we switch to the depressive music list and feel like we will be banned from ever visiting AUBG again.

Eventually we get over it and make the most out of the experience …but in between drinks there, we do bring it up and feel sad , then our jam starts playing and SWOSH sadness is gone ! This is how we get used to the idea of having to say Goodbye but…

Little things in life.

I‘ve always thought of small details and little gestures to be much more fulfilling than big ‘screaming for attention’ actions. A student’s life is very restricted when it comes to finances so not anybody can afford doing nice gestures for people close to them regardless of the big desire to do so. That is true indeed, however there is always room for being kind with almost no money at all. If you had some money …that would be so much better though (remember how generous you get when you get your tax refund?)

I can tell you some free of charge nice gestures or things to consider if you ever feel like making somebody’s  day.

1.       Be a hugger! Say Good morning or good day or smile and take a second to hug the person. If you care enough of course… that will make the both of you feel good.

2.       Compliment! If you think any of your friends girls is wearing something nice, do say it. Why do you think they go shopping and take their sweet time to match and look good in first place ?! (well mostly for the other girls to envy but that’s for another time)

3.       Share sweets or whatever you’re enjoying. Don’t be Joy, if you share , the chances of you getting it back ten times and even more are pretty high.

4.       Let stupid things slide. Don’t hold on to immature things that might have caused unpleasant things between you and other people. Do believe me, things feel awkward for the other person the same way it feels for you when you have to see each other.

To be continued…

It's OK not to be OK.

Hello there! Long time no see…

This time’s topic is going to be more emotionally concerned and not gender oriented since we all know that both women and men go through these days.

I’m taking about those days when you are so overwhelmed with things to do that you find yourself b*tching about all kinds of things. It recently happened to me (and many others around me) to be so fed up of responsibilities that you actually take it out on people that have nothing to do with your problems (poor things, they’re just trying to …exist) but also with your most loved ones.

Especially what happens with women is that they re constantly picking on details on days like this. They are overreacting to all kinds of situations, and proving themselves right even if that was the last thing they did in their life. Okey, okey stop imagining us wearing black capes, pointy hats , long nails and riding brooms. I just meant that we can be a little rough and irrational but this is not entirely our fault.

There are days like that that you are so disappointed how things works and especially on the fact that no matter how nice you are to people, the bad cop attitude would make things work faster. You are so mad at everyone for not being the way you are or not have the principles you do. You are amazed at the others' irresponsibility and inconsiderate ways of treating you. You are tired of people trying to make you as inhuman as they are.

Remember how they always taught us when we were little that no matter what you have to get up again and fight some more? (Who did they think we were? Superheros ??) I’m all for adapting and learning how to live in a community but at days like these that sounds like the dumbest idea ever. NO, in days like this I want to cuddle up in a ball and never leave my bed.

Have you ever been tired of being strong? I think we all have. Strong personality and capability to handle the situation "the right way" loses power in days like those. That is why i feel that in moments like that I wish I could just run away. But then again rationality kicks in and I have to come back to reality and figure it all out… because nobody else will if i don't...

No matter how you deal with the situations, how weak or strong you think you can be, no matter how much you can think you can handle, let me tell you that is ok to feel weak and to want to just hide from every possible responsibility! Now is just the beginning and without wanting to spoil it, there is a long path of disappointment and all sorts of failures ahead. So either learn to live with that fear or find a good spot to hide till you’re ready to face it all. We’ve all been there and we will all stop by again and again eventually too.

Just keep in mind that no matter what either Karma will take care of you (I’ve seen it in action!) or things will end up to be just FINE ! Maybe not today, but eventually they will.J

Ok, first things first: who is doing the check-in ?

We all do that! Stop being all like: “Oh, I don’t get this kind of people…”

My question is: do we want to experience things to show off to others or just for the sake of experiencing them?

Well, how about we agree that is a combination of both? This way we don’t hurt the too cool ‘non-active’ stalkers of Facebook, and don’t relate much to the selfie-animals of it either. 

What happens, (at least according to the precious thoughts of mine) is that we live in the era when we do things for others to see. Of course…of course we get a lot of satisfaction out of it, otherwise we wouldn’t do it for the sake of a picture or a check-in (or would we…?) Nah ! We’re not that desperate.(or are we…?)

The perfect example is what happens with traveling ! I used to be the one who listed traveling under biggest passions, and I still do but who doesn’t  like traveling and exploring ?!?!  Nowadays, saying  I love traveling and that is my thing DOESN’T count ! Is everybody’s thing! Unless you are "Bear" Grylls, than that way of exploring is your thing...

People live for traveling, doing check-ins and posting pictures with foreign backgrounds which is translated : HA! In your face, im here , you  wish but you cant, so deal with it!

(Note: i think i have a free pass talking about this because i had a very exciting trip and did it with no check-ins and a single picture.HOWEVER , the need of having to say this makes me as usual as the others who instead of walking and enjoying the surroundings, kept checking for Wifi signal.)

So people do what you gotta do, whatever makes you happy and let whomever you want (especially those girls you hate or that Ex that broke your heart :P ) see that you’re having fun and living life the fullest! You, the judgers of the rest who do things for ‘themselves’ and to whom no one else matters (but who still dress up and follow the latest fashion/technological trends and embrace hipster trends or want to be accepted in the ‘cool’ groups)  either stop judging the masses who already know what they like to show off and live your way, OR settle on a style already and find something you like bragging about. If you are not up for any of it then, listen up: You are the most common person there is. In the future when they categorize people of our generation , you will be part of the “Others” category or the “chameleon” category  which will probably have its own section named “Personality issues”…Let that sink for a bit and take action on it.

Peeps : check in, post pictures, tell us what you ate for breakfast or drank for dinner. Please let us know if you're feeling MEH or not... and do still post things with innuendo jokes that no one but your roommate or close friend gets. And please do send us those Candy Crush or Farmville invitations! Without you, our wall would be so predictable and after all who doesn’t want to open notifications and see that instead of receiving cute wall posts and nice comments has been invited to a game?! Keep up the great work! Mark needs the latest Lamborghini and honestly we couldn't make it a day without you... 

Bloody hell.

The good intention of this post is to justify all my girl pals’ actions when under circumstances that only us women understand. We have had the opportunity to hear all the humorous jokes about the “awakening of the dragon”. (Promise, I will let the gross side apart )Now, let’s go for a tour behind the curtains of the bloody hell week, shall we?

Welcome! Allow me to guide you to through women’s heart and mind (and stomach!) during THAT week of the month. It all starts from the days before. Because a whole week is not enough for the terror… we need the anticipation too.  It’s usually 2-3 days when we get the memo… Then the whining marathon is ON ! Can you blame us though? That comes with preparation too, and I don’t mean going to the store and getting a bunch of stuff we need but also means psychological preparation. The first doesn’t need much explanation, the second by the way …

We already know, and the rest of you who don’t bleed from your parts have to understand that we’re preparing our fragile body for a hurricane of a week. A week, which is physically exhausting and psychologically destructive.  We know what’s coming… and we can’t do anything to prevent it… How would you feel if you were to know you are going to be physically tortured and can’t do anything to get yourself out of it? However, is worth mentioning that every woman experiences it differently , but we all are part of a club... It’s called ‘under covers’ and the main activity is devouring chocolates and having zero control of our mood. If you are part of the club, even off session, you support your pals by providing movies to cry the eyes out. The funny part: They are romantic comedies…

We don’t expect you to contribute to the club. It’s ok to not fully understand what we go through. It is NOT ok however, to freak out and treat your girlfriend, friend/girl, relative as a stranger who is going to bite you or attack you any moment.  Also, so not ok to go MIA!

We can be a little too loud…or a little too overreacting… or a

tiny bit irrational, but it’s not that we want it. It’s our hormones who make the rules. At the end of the day, not only do we have to deal what other deal with on regular bases but do that in extreme conditions of pain and exhaustion.  Also in addition to that, deal with the pressure of keeping our emotions as much under control as we can afford.  I speak for all of us: If you care for the girl, be considerate and let things go.( We do, when your team loses!) Our reaction is nothing compared to our post experience. We have to deal with the consequences of the actions made not from a sane mind. That causes another chaotic emotional breakdown …and way more chocolates and junk so make our self esteem a favor and go easy on us.

I wouldn’t expect you to eagerly now more but I think if you really want to understand and not walk on eggshells for a whole week, better go offer your help. The chances are you will get confused but worth a try to send he caring message. Trust me, if the mood timing is right( Good luck!) you will be rewarded one way or the other… And do believe me, we all wish we hibernated for a whole week instead and everybody would be safe ! 

That week is horrible indeed, but if there is one good thing about it … and I mean the ONLY one, is that fraction of a happiness when realizing it’s actually happening… ;)

…But you can’t tell anyone!

The factors that made me write this post are many, but mostly because of a very recent event that kind of shocked me because it is so not like him…We just got back from spring break. I had this thoughtful idea of surprising my parents and grandmother. She hadn’t been feeling good recently so I decided to go home and see her. I had it all planned out! My brother picking me up and me traveling the next day to my hometown. First I would pick up flowers and go at my grandma’s, then I would show up at my mom’s work and surprise her too. It took me two days to come up with reasons why I wasn’t going to go home and several skype calls to sell it to my parents. Finally they got convinced and understood that “very important matter” that had to keep me at school for the whole spring break week. So, I tell my brother the plan and also where and when to pick me up.  

The second I arrived and jumped in the car he makes a phone call and hands me the phone saying: “-Here, talk to mom, she was worried about the trip…” Well, you can imagine my reaction. That exact moment after a “thank you deeply” look, I thought I can still make it to surprise grandma… The second I pull the phone closer to my ear, not only did I hear my mom’s excited voice but also grandma’s, uncles’, aunties’, and all the possible cousins within 100 km radius back home. Nobody in my family,  apparently can’t quite keep a secret. When asked my brother why did he tell them, I swear he said : “They asked me…”

If it wasn’t for his double-mine height…

The thing is that keeping secrets is not an issue for men only (mostly because they forget that it was one in the first place), it is also a big deal to women too. The second you say it out loud that is a secret, suddenly creates an urge to share and spread it out there in all possible chat corners and in little bags of added and exaggerated details. Women are very good at restraining themselves and appreciating that you chose her to share that very “uncommon” thing…

Restrain…well , we consider ourselves  great secret keepers. The safest box to lock your secret. I mean it, but if you ever hear a word from our best friend, or our best friend’s friend, or our cousins who live in Japan, or our mom’s friend’s daughter in Spain, or that other girl whose name I can’t remember but who liked my dress,or the canteen lady, or whomever close to us that night in the club…THAT WASN’T US! I don’t know how they got to know!

Secrets are the worst! Not only give you that responsibility of being a safeguard of “a huge” matter but they also trigger this involuntary feeling of coming up with alibis in case it ever gets public! 

Advice: If you really don’t want anything to get out there and reach crowds you don’t want to know, stop telling people it’s a secret ! Talk about it as a random thing that could have happened to anyone. The chances of it being so common are extremely high anyways, just like the chances of the listeners ignoring it till their turn comes to share theirs.

Now….. shhhhhhh! Don’t tell anybody I ever wrote this! It’s a SECRET!